Faith and Emotional Sobriety
By Carlos Brown | Ottobock Champion | Professional Golf Instructor
Cambridge Dictionary defines a life-changing experience as "having an effect that is strong enough to change someone's life." Almost 4 years ago, my life changed when a bad sprain turned into a life-threatening infection that resulted in a below-knee amputation. Although things were challenging after my amputation, the thought of giving up never crossed my mind because I believed God saved me for a reason.
As I was recovering, I had to learn how to manage my mind. If you learn to manage your mind, then your body and emotions will follow. I decided to focus on the things I needed to do to get better and become emotionally sober. Emotional sobriety means you are not controlled by your reaction to circumstances. You feel your emotions but you don’t allow them to dictate your reactions. It allows you to live your life in the midst of imperfect situations. It also allows you to accept love from friends and family, and allow others to help you.
During this time of self-quarantine, I've kept the same mindset. Instead of worrying about the COVID-19 pandemic and focusing on what I can’t change, I've continued to train, prepare for tournaments, mentor teens, and encourage members of my church. I'm also keeping my sights set on the future -- I am continuously working with my sponsors and developing plans for my business. By keeping your emotions in check, you will become more aware of the things that are really important. For example, I've really enjoyed spending time with my beautiful wife. We feel fortunate to have the time to go for long walks, cook together, and watch movies.
Here are some other ways that have been helping me get through this difficult time:
• Meditate: Meditation is a great way to help you relax, focus and redirect your thoughts. Meditation can also help with reducing stress, controlling anxiety and promoting emotional health.
• Keep a journal: Writing down your dreams, goals and ideas in a journal is a great way to plan for the future. Devoting your time to positive thoughts allows you to see your future beyond the situation.
• Build your personal community: You need to know that you're not alone in this and there are people in your life who can encourage you. Set aside time to connect with people in your life by using video chat – spend time online with friends and family or join online support groups. During this time we can't let fear keep us from connecting with the people we love and care about.
I pray that everyone stays safe and healthy during this time. Feel free to reach out to me, my door is always open.